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If life ran like a storybook, the person we fall in love would not be the person who broke us. Sadly, we humans tend to be a bit more human than that. We fall in love, we commit, we get hurt — over and over — and we stay. People need people, but sometimes the cost is a heavy one. Love is addictive.

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Perhaps either may threaten consequences that are, in reality, hidden power plays for control. Sadly, some partners find over time that they cannot live with certain crucially important different needs or desires. Without the courage or capability to allow their core selves to connect, the relationship will fall prey to shallow connections over time.

How much time away from each other can we tolerate? Insecurity can make them afraid that their partners will love them less if they know too much. When things quiet down, the partners are in line to make new appraisals of what is good, what needs improvement, and what may be unacceptable. Fearful of scarring the relationship further, they stay with comfortable and non-threatening words and behaviors. Very often one partner moves ahead in his or her evolution and the other steadfastly stays the same. It is all too common and terribly sad when partners cannot go beyond superficial interactions.

Their message is heartfelt and well-intended: Every relationship, given the right direction and hard enough work, should somehow succeed. When a relationship seldom scars and is in constant transformation, the partners within it are lucky people who will probably never lose interest in each other. Unfortunately, over time, some of the distressful behaviors begin to fester and are harder for the other partner to ignore.

If a couple has made every effort to know one another deeply and comes to the end of that discovery, they will begin to take each other for granted and put less energy into a dull and habitual relationship. Quality partners who have lost each other usually feel terrible about hurting the other and saddened at their own feelings of failure. For example, the more social partner may now want to bring other friends into the relationship or spend time away without the other partner.

How many children, if any, should we have? It is only when resources are pooled that partners begin to reveal what they can live without, compromise on, or are unwilling to change.

There are many reasons why lovers are afraid to connect at a deeper level. If power struggles persist, couples go from being a team to adversaries on opposite sides of the playing field.

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They no longer need to pay much attention to know what is going on. But, for the most part, new lovers want to please each other, deepen their connection, and overcome their barriers. Some of the most common are different sexual appetites, disparate dreamsor how to deal with prior partners, but there are many others. That is especially true when both partners have done all they can, aren't even sure why things went wrong, and are weary from trying. The partners who relish those early moments will hold on dearly to the joy of their bliss.

Whether one partner should tell another about them can vary by the seriousness of the issue and whether or not its aftermath will ultimately affect the new relationship.

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The fact is, many relationships should end. If they've tried in their current relationship and not been well received, they may have recoiled and returned to acting in ways that seem less threatening.

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A very attractive partner who dedicates a great deal of time maintaining that result might seem too self-interested. What is our ideal place to live? What might have been a mutual decision to spend all of their time together may become a problem if one partner wants more time alone and the other wants to share that time with others.

Every new relationship has both good interactions and not-so-good ones. If they cannot triumph over them, they run the risk of finding each other inadequate. When love is new, both partners are willing to compromise. Perhaps one partner needs quiet, separate time, leaving the other feeling lonely and abandoned. How do we communicate and can we resolve important conflicts?

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They hope that, once the new relationship is established, their partner will be more likely to forgive those old transgressions. They can be little things like leaving clothes on the floor, being chronically late, or forgetting a promise.

They are willing to be known in more vulnerable ways and to listen more deeply to each other. No matter how tolerant a new partner may be, there are also certain late confessions that can destroy even the most desirable of relationships.

There are some real and justifiable reasons why good people cannot seem to get past their relationship difficulties, no matter how much energy and time they have devoted to each other. Oh, the blindness of new love. When caring partners are first together, they accent the ways they can love each other, make allowances for differences, and try to push away as-yet-unrevealed needs in hopes that the deepening love between them will ultimately resolve the situation. Too often, this process in reciprocal defensiveness with both partners may resort to defending their positions and trying to pressure the other into complying.

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Power struggles can result in partners just walking away, ranting in angercreating desperate pleas, or using guilt as a bludgeoning stick. New lovers do their best to appreciate the naturally satisfying connections and ignore those that are irritating. There are also very serious issues that must be shared up front, even though the risk is high.

Over time, their interactions become predictable rituals, requiring less and less effort. A person wonderfully careful about not overspending can, over time, appear stingy and cheap. If the relationship both scars often but continues to grow, it will be constantly in flux, with partners who alternate between hurting and healing. They strive to overlook flaws and embellish those qualities that make their new partner bigger than life. The last possible combination is a relationship that neither scars nor grows. What is considered highly desirable at the beginning may have a negative downside that isn't revealed until the relationship matures.

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There are no surprises, no challenges, and no growth. For instance, if a potential partner has an STD that could threaten healtha vindictive ex-wife or husband, or a prior felony conviction that might affect the future. A passionate partner who is initially highly sexual may be much less so as other priorities emerge. What are our criteria for friendships? Soon, they are more likely to share who they really are with others, rather than with each other. These relationships often continue for long periods of time but usually eventually exhaust the partners who are in them.

If no amount of requests, pleading, or threatening changes that pattern, the person who was once enthralled will feel entrapped in same-old-same-old, and needs to move on.

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When they've tried everything they can, and the relationship still doesn't work, it should not be about fault, shameblame, or fear of trying again. In time they will become susceptible to new and more intriguing experiences. Unfortunately, resources are not endless, and too many stressors can erode the deepest of commitments. The synergistic energy of a new relationship appears boundless.

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Most new lovers purposefully hide past behaviors that have negatively affected their other relationships. On the surface, it may seem like a magically compatible, quietly successful union, but the lack of excitement and energy observed can be a powerful warning that there is trouble brewing.

Those differences need to be sorted out with mutual respect and support, but often bring out behaviors that neither partner could have anticipated, nor can live with. These common examples can be hard to endure, and it is up to each person when to share them.

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If well-intentioned and caring people can, without guilt or blame, recognize the symptoms that tell them that they need to let go, they can end their relationship without resentment or feelings of wasted time. These potential differences rarely come to light early in a relationship. Sharing the power to make decisions, they become an integrated team creating mutually agreed-upon solutions. Abundant in the energy to face challenge, they feel they can face any crisis, unexpected or anticipated.

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But, as love grows, successful couples begin to deepen their communication and take more risks in sharing their vulnerabilities and flaws. Any past hidden behavior that might be unacceptable to a new partner can be a deal-breaker when it is finally revealed. It is totally normal for those exaggerated illusions to diminish over time and the partners grow to know each other more deeply.

Either may have used sweet seduction, gentle coercion, or invitation in the past, but now has lost patience and uses more intense persuasions.

How should our money be allocated? Relationships have two major dimensions, growing and scarring. To others, they may appear to be totally compatible, but they are really just repeating known and secure habitual behaviors. Perhaps, when they've tried in the past, they have had bad experiences and felt rejection, abandonment, or invalidation.

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For instance, a partner dedicated to his or her mission in life may seem marvelously impressive but then disappoints that partner by too often prioritizing that commitment over the relationship. Keeping things light, surface, and non-threatening is more common behavior. There are also more serious ones like still staying close to an old boy- or girlfriend, getting a little too drunk, or not paying bills on time. The partner who has bought into believing that the other is trustworthy in those crucial areas may be unable to accept past behaviors that challenge both that they happened at all and that they were concealed in the first place.

It is hard for anyone to be totally authentic and open in a new relationship.

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As the relationship matures, one or the other partner may express his or her desires, biasesand prejudices with more intensity. Posted May 17, Reviewed by Lybi Ma. For the better of three decades, the media has tackled the problem of failing relationships and how they can be saved. Do we take care of our parents? Sometimes there is just too much heartache, and any relationship can go down when too much is too much. Hurtful struggles replace past compromises as each vies to win the game.

Because there is so little support out there to comfort them, they are often reluctant to talk about what happened. When these upsetting behaviors hit a critical mass, the other partner may be unable to tolerate them anymore.